It doesn’t matter how troubled you are, there is always a doorway. If you look around you, you will see it.
You just need to walk through it.
It’s easy to complain … ‘My finances aren’t strong, I’m not strong, My abilities aren’t well rounded enough’.
Yes they are! and Yes you are!
It’s important to remember that we wouldn’t of been given the job of caring for another soul, another little being if you weren’t capable. Ok?! And … it’s that strength you are building on a daily basis, doing it on your own, learning new things, discovering yourself, finding your way that takes you that little bit farther.
And as you go along you will notice more of those doors of opportunity around you. It could be a new job, a new friendship will teach you how to trust yourself, to engage and nurture that new friendship, it may be a door to helping someone else and putting more light into the world.
Look! Growing is never easy, but it builds the blocks for what your going to do in this world. We are all set different challenges. Mine is and has been a single parent raising a daughter. But I have used it as an opportunity to read and learn, and read and learn …. and read and learn some more, so I can continue to carry the batton for other single parents.
With this comes my best 3 things to help you grow as a new single parent.
Holy Cow! have I read some books in the past 12 years or so. It has been my life blood to where I am now. One of the very first books I read as a newly single parent was “End the Struggle and Dance with Life” by Susan Jeffers. I think I nearly cried through the whole book, it hit me right between the eyes and helped me to see deeper inside myself. I had a lot of realisation reading the words of Susan and smothered myself in them like a cozy blanket. I highly recommend it. Another of her books that picked me up off the floor was “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway”. Powerful words of wisdom.
Since then, I have moved on and through many many other books and in most cases the right book will find you at the right time. It always did and still does for me. However, Susan’s books still stand strong as one of my all time favourites, and if you are new to being a single parent get yourself a copy and start learning.
Ever wondered why we have two ears and one mouth!? I believe we should listen more and talk less.
Personally I don’t think I would be as settled and self-stable if I hadn’t of listened to others stories, their encouragement and wisdom. Now, I’m not suggesting to take everything and run with it. There are times when you need to be discerning. But, if you do the work and find the right mentor, the ones who have your best interest at heart … then you can take it all in.
There is so much to learn and so much of it is extremely valuable to your everyday life. And generally it’s our instincts that will tell us what is good for us and what isn’t. So, you need to listen for that too …. most of all!
Listening doesn’t cost anything bar your time, yet it is something that has the power to propel you forward when you pay attention. So …listen up!
#3. SHARE YOUR STORY
This is your chance! Not just to dump all your junk onto someone else to make yourself feel a whole lot better ….no! but, to give something of yourself to someone who could really benefit from it. No matter how troubled, or damaged, or alone, or forgotten you may think you are or feel, you can always …always … use your story in a positive way to improve someone else life.
Other people stories are fuel for life. They inspire people, they show others what can be achieved, they are more than ‘just your story’, they are a guided path for someone else to follow, to find their way out of the darkness. Your story, in all its struggles, turns into solutions for someone else. Be a light!
Remember, none of us are really as troubled as we may think we are, we’ve just often misplaced our creativity and forget to look beyond, to find the door. Doors are Everywhere.
till next time,